Looking at the potential wife in Islam | Fitrah Tawheed

Looking at the potential wife for marriage

When the man wants to take the next step and see the potential wife to make a decision, it is important that he knows what the limits are.

The man may only look at her face and hands. These are the parts of the body that he is allowed to look at to decide whether to marry her based on her appearance.

So it is not allowed to look at her forearms, neck or hair. And this is the opinion of the majority of scholars.

Sayings of the Fuqaha

Imam Shafi'i

(قَالَ): وَإِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَ الْمَرْأَةَ فَلَيْسَ لَهُ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إلَيْهَا حَاسِرَةً وَيَنْظُرَ إلَى وَجْهِهَا وَكَفَّيْهَا وَهِيَ مُتَغَطِّيَةٌ بِإِذْنِهَا وَبِغَيْرِ إذْنِهَا قَالَ اللَّه تَعَالَى {وَلا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا} قَالَ الْوَجْهُ وَالْكَفَّانِ.
ص264 - مختصر المزني

Imam Shafi'i said: "When a man wishes to marry a woman, he may look at her face and hands, either without or with her consent. {And do not display your beauties except what is visible of them}, here is meant: the face and the hands." [Mukhtasar al-Muzani 264]

Imam Ahmad

قال أحمد في رواية صالح : ينظر إلى الوجه ، ولا يكون عن طريق لذة .
وله أن يردّد النظر إليها ، ويتأمل محاسنها ، لأن المقصود لا يحصل إلا بذلك
المغني ٦/ ٥٥٣

Imam Ahmad said: "He may look at her face, but not out of lust. He may look at her repeatedly if necessary to make sure of his decision." [Al-Mughni 6/355]

Imam Malik

قال ابن القاسم للإمام مالك، وهو يتكلم عن الظهار: « قلت: أرأيت المرأة إذا ظاهر منها زوجها هل يجب عليها أن تمنعه نفسها؟ قال: قال مالك: نعم، تمنعه نفسها قال: ولا يصلح له أن ينظر إلى شعرها ولا إلى صدرها . قال: فقلت لمالك أفينظر إلى وجهها، فقال: نعم، وقد ينظر غيره أيضا إلى وجهها» .
المدونة 2/ 334-335

Imam Malik said: "He may look at her face, but not look at her hair or her chest. And others may also look at her face (as a witness at the ceremony). [Al-Muduwanah 2/334-335 from Ibn Sa'id Sahnun]

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