Narcissism | Fitrah Tawheed

Who is a narcissistic partner?

Having a partner who is treating you badly is very tiring and frustrating. Your partner may exhibit some narcissistic traits like being selfish, not spending enough time with you or calling you disrespectful names.

Whether your partner is a full blown narcissist or a person who is a jerk, it is never fun to be in such relationship. It tires you out and depletes your energy.

Evaluate whether you are dealing with a narcissist or just someone who is a jerk and has some narcissistic traits. Because this gives you clarity on which steps you can take to deal with this.

In this article, we discuss how you can deal with a narcissist, someone who can be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.

1. Research the topic of narcissism

There is a lot to learn from what narcissism is, to the way they act and the way they think. It is beneficial to know with whom you are dealing with.

True narcissists are controlling and demand attention or admiration. They need you to comply to their needs and wishes, while ignoring yours.

The narcissist's main concern is himself and only himself. Your only role is to provide them with what they need from you, which could be four: intimacy, attention, services, permanent presence.

When you know with what personality you are dealing with, it becomes clear to you that there really is no hope for change in this person. Their mindset is so ingrained that you cannot take it out of them.

2. Evaluate the damage

Listen to your body, take some time to really consider yourself for ones. You have been in pain for a long time, and this has to be taken into consideration.

Just like you eat food when you are hungry, you should also listen to your pain. What has the narcissist done to you that really hurt you? Was it the neglect, emotional abuse or verbal abuse?

It also helps to reach out to a counselor who is specialized in this field. It then becomes easier to map out the problems and hurt you are facing.

3. Seek professional help

It is horrible to deal with a narcissist. The feeling alone and emotional abuse eats you up, which seems to just not go away.

Maybe you have already reached out for help of friends or family, but you have not found the solution to this problem.

It is important to seek professional help from experts who have specialized in the field of narcissistic abuse. We provide Islamic counseling for this exact issue.

4. Supplicate to Allah

Supplication is always powerful when you intend to take action and really try to solve the problem. Ask Allah for some ease and release of pain. But keep in mind that supplication is not the solution, you must follow it up with action.

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for there is no veil between them and Allah." [Sahih Bukhari 4347]

Having a narcissist as your partner is very painful and hard to deal with. They tend to be aggressive either physically or emotionally.

Allow yourself to really feel safe and free again, take back control over your life and make life livable without suffering from constant loneliness and depletion.

Abu Athari writes about basic principles within Islam. He uses his critical and well-researched way to spread knowledge of the first three Muslim generations.

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